In October many people start to think about the holidays. Debates start about when to start decorating and listening to holiday music. Do we have to wait until after Halloween or Thanksgiving. After Thanksgiving, the sales start and the holiday shopping begins. For many people, they are excited with the thought of being with family, giving gifts, having time off. For others, this is the beginning of feeling sad, stressed, overwhelmed, alone, frustrated, depressed. Many people, the holidays are a reminder of people who they will not be able to celebrate with this year.
As I get older, the number of friends I have that struggle with grief this time of year increases. People seem to grieve more and may isolate more, or feel more isolated as people share about their family holiday plans. Not that people do not miss their loved ones all the time, but this time of year can be harder with constant reminders of their loss all around them.
People not only can be struggling with grief at this time but also feelings of loneliness. There are people that struggle with the social aspect of the holidays. They may not feel like they fit in with their own family, or do not have that special someone to spend the holidays with. Again, these feelings seem to be amplified this time of year.
Holiday stress is also a problem for many. Are you a perfectionist that likes to have people over but stresses with how perfect everything will look, taste and smell? Do you struggle with buying the perfect gift or wonder who you are supposed to get gifts for? Do you try for the perfect Pinterest or Instagram holiday and end up with a holiday fail? Do you wish you could afford to invite people over or give your children more?
Often, we put a lot of pressure on ourselves trying to meet an expectation that we have set for ourselves. We are trying to hard to please family members or impress our parents. There are images in the media and conversations on TV and the radio that help reinforce these feelings. We will be writing more about ways to cope with these feelings and giving easy things that you can do to help with grief, isolation, loneliness, stress and frustration.
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